What's the key to a successful relationship? Some might think that's the million dollar question. Sometimes it's just the simple things, that we easily forget or think are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Read through the helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.
1. Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive. Aim to devote at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.
2. You both want to feel secure within the relationship. A good relationship is built on compromise and a lot of give and take from both of you.
3. Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Learn to love your partner warts and all. Don't try to change them into something they're not, after all you fell in love with them just the way they were.
4. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples. For the relationship to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget.
5. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you wouldn't want to hear said back. Just remember, the one good thing they say about arguing, is the making up afterwards.
6. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgement. Don't let your emotions dictate your behaviour. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other.
7. Sort out your sex life, it may start to go downhill over the years, don't just accept it. As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of your prefers more sex than the other. Why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom. Role play, dressing up, or maybe take your sex life out of the
bedroom and try new places. The introduction of marital aids into the relationship can also help to spice things up. Whatever you decide, remember communication is vital.
8. Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner how much you need them, but don't get to dependent on them and cling to them all the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped. On the flip side of this, don't allow your partner to think you don't need them, by going or doing things without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance
between the two.
9.Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give yourself, and him a break and start again, with someone new.
10. Don't ever think that going to counseling is a sign of a failed relationship. It can turn a bad relationship around and can also turn an average relationship into an excellent one. More people are turning to counseling today more than ever before, it shows you are both prepared
to try and make things better, which can't be a bad thing at all.
The fact remains, that whether you're dating or married, relationships are hard. It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can. And remember it's the little things that you sometimes do that can go a long way to making your relationship work.
In the realm of having to do battle with demonic spirits from time to time - I believe there are 4 basic levels in which a Christian may have to face. Having the specific knowledge on what each one of these levels are all about can really help with planning and carrying out the appropriate battle strategy in which to defeat them should demons ever move in for an attack on either you or any of your close loved ones.
Every time that Jesus told His apostles to go out and walk with His anointing to save the lost and heal the sick - He always had the command in there to also cast out demonic spirit where and when needed.
So if Jesus was constantly casting out demons, always telling the apostles to cast out demons - then it should only be logical that the church should continue to cast out demons.
It has been estimated by many Bible scholars that approximately 25% of the miracles Jesus had performed were Him casting demons out of people. Satan and his demons are not confined to the Bottomless Pit at this time. This event will not happen until Jesus returns back to us in His second coming. Until that event happens, Satan and his demons are still free to roam in the "air" seeking who they are going to try and devour next.
As Christians, we always have to remember that the devil and his demons are already defeated animals. Jesus has already defeated Satan at the cross when He was crucified.
What is now left is that all Christians have to realize that the victory is already ours. We thus have to learn how to engage and defeat the devil and his demons when they do try to move into a person or a situation - and sometimes this means a real live deliverance - because demons can and do attach themselves to people when tey move in for an attack. And once they do, the only way to be able to drive them out is by the power of God!
Here are the 4 different ways and avenues that demons can move in for an attack on someone - whether the person be a Christian or a nonbeliever. There are rules to the war games that are going on behind the scenes between God and the devil for all of our souls. To be forewarned is to be properly armed.
1. The first level is when demons move in for an attack with no real legal right to be able to do so. This is exactly what happened to Jesus when He was out in the wilderness for 40 days and 40 nights. Satan had no legal right to be coming after Him, but he did anyway and Jesus drove him away by quoting the Word back to him.
2. The second level is when demons do have a legal right to be coming after you. And one of the ways that you give demons the legal right to be able to attack you is by crossing over and entering into some of the heavier sins and transgressions expressly forbidden by our Lord from His Word.
3. The third level is when demons attack as a result of what someone has may have done to you. Sometimes victims of crimes such as rape and assault, or receiving severe abuse from a parent or spouse can cause demons to try and move in to attach to the victim - trying to feed off the negative emotions of hate, anger, unforgiveness and wanting to get revenge on the attacker or abuser.
4. The fourth level is when demons will try and attach to someone as a result of a generational curse line coming from a severe sinning, dysfunctional parent or parents. For instance, an alcoholic father can end up producing children who end up becoming alcoholic themselves. Demons will attempt to jump and transfer from the father onto some of the children trying to get them to commit the same type of sin their parent had been committing.
As Christians, we have to have knowledge of our enemies and how they will try and attack us. Many Christians are getting defeated or taken home too early from this life as a result of not having some basic 101 knowledge in spiritual warfare.
Article written by Michael Bradley of Bible Knowledge Ministries.
Thinking of classification, my mind thought of race, and the names that are associated with my “Color.” I went through the changes, as my race classification changed on the “National Stage.”
Growing up from the time of birth to about ten race had no meaning to me (1952 to 1962). I was known as the “Colored” boy, if one did not know my name. To me this was not a problem, it was a badge of honor, if you will, because of my mother. She told me that God took his time when I was created. He gave me a color of brown skin. So therefore when I was called colored. She would say, “Smile and think it would be funny to be called brown boy.” Colored I am and colored I be and that was fine with me. Living in a western state, Colorado, there was little, if any, racial tension. None that would provoke anger at being called colored. I recall Chet Huntley or David Brinkley, NBC newscasters, describing an event where some “Colored people” were involved. So being “Colored” until the age of ten for me was cool. However, that was soon to change.
It was suttle and seemed overnight, as I went from “Colored” to “Negro.” Yet I still was the same or was I? “Negro” brought a sense of responsibility or something of that nature. This was between the age of ten to sixteen (1962 - 1969). A feeling of no longer being “Colored;” but gaining a value of a person with a named race. Along with the growth of the Civil Rights Movement came an awareness that others of my race were going through a rough time, because of our color. A short note here-I was blessed to have a family that was strong in faith, and was taught it is not the color of one’s skin; it is the relationship with the Creator that matters. He created us as equal.
Classed as “Negro,” there was knowledge that was brought to light, such as the first, martyr of the American Revolution Cripus Attucks a “Negro.” He raised his cane to strike the British soldiers that came to our soil. The word “Negro” also brought another word, one I was clueless about.
Being “politically correct”, the “N” word came from John, a classmate. Not knowing this word, he took liberty, in greeting me with the “N” word whenever we would first meet. We were in the third grade. I asked my mother, “What was the “N” word?” She wanted to know where I had heard this. Relaying my story, I was given instructions. The next time I was greeted that way, I was to ask why he was using his mother’s name. As fate would have it, John was sick for a few days. The day he returned, he was with his mother. Without thought on his part, he greeted me with the “N” word. Following through on what I was told, I shook his mother’s hand asking, “Mrs. Nigger why does John call me your name?” With red face, John’s mother slapped him, and stormed off the playground with him in tow. Sharing the incident with my mother, she laughed until she cried. Taking a dictionary, she showed me the meaning of “Nigger.” The next day John returned to school and we never spoke again. “Negro” became a part of learning, a race of people-my people. .
Thinking, I am a young educated “Negro,” Wham! We are reclassified again. “Now I’m Black.” This was hard to incorporate into the Negro me, between the ages of sixteen to twenty five (1968-1977). The value of being complete in race was to understanding what the acceptance of “Black” meant to others and me. Two Black men, were standing on a podium at the Summer Olympic Ceremony in 1968 with medals around their necks, black gloved clenched fists held high in the air, heads bowed, while the American National Anthem played. This was a statement to our country, given in front of the World. The fist lifted to fight the silent and not so silent oppression of the now “Black Race.” No longer would we be demoralized or degraded by “Whitey.” A call for equal rights for all, a level playing field in all areas of life was demanded. Injustice would no longer be tolerated, without a voice of justice. “Black Power” was the rule of the day. Dr. Martin Luther King, shot dead; Malcolm X shot dead, Robert Kennedy shot dead.” Black” was difficult to assimilate, with the young educated “Negro” me.
A fight within, a need to belong, “No longer Colored, No longer Negro, Definitely not the “N” word,” I needed help. Wanting to represent my race with pride and who I am, the mind was needed here. Understanding and becoming part of the heritage, deeply imbedded within the fabric of our lives here in America, again I arose. Standing proud, a “Black Man,” I know who I am.
“Afro-What? Give me a break!” Yet another classification in the year of 1978. I wondered has any other race gone through this. However, this was easy being called “Afro-American,” having acknowledged who I am. Accepting the little “Colored Boy,” the young educated “Negro,” and the “Black Man,” all became part of me. Honoring our place of origin was the right thing to do for me. For others it was demanded. Some of my kind feels the majority population of our country should pay. Others feel that an apology needs to be made for the atrocities done by their ancestors.
“Colored,” “Negro,” “Nigger,” yes lets call it what it is “Black,” and “Afro-American” words. Each had a meaning that brought a category of thoughts, feeling, and values. I am blessed to have had a family that was strong in faith. They taught me now internalized; it is not the color of ones skin. It is the relationship one has with God that matters. In the Creator, I am a child of the Holy Family. In God’s eyes, I hope that as a sinner saved by His grace, I am growing into a good and faithful manservant. If they come up with another classification for my race, so be it. I will stay with what I have become, a child of God!
A moment in time not to long ago, I set out on a course to discover me! More to the point, is my relationship in what I believe. Finding the path my journey begins, I find myself in school and really enjoying the experience. Along with the other duty's of being a responsible member of society, my plate is full.
A reality check there is so much that goes on in all our lives today. You have to step back ,Stop, sit down , shut up , and quiet the mind.
We are all racing the unknown time clock of life. Have you asked your self for what purpose? Do you really care?
I must have this! I got to get that! I need; What do you really need? Do you have true peace , comfort, joy, in your life?
If your answer is yes then you are doing well. If yours was no then you need to seek what you have yet to find!
I'm a seeker of truth it saddens me those that seek and find quit. The journey of the seeker is to find those that are sought after. If you understand fine, if not pretend you do and move on.
I taught my children not to lie, and yet a commercial on television fibs about a candle and the sticker is found on her rump. Whats up with that? The shows promote a morality that would have our departed ancestors rolling in their graves.
We the intelligent ones, I wonder what is it we are seeing or not seeing. I'm afraid the later is more the case. We have a voice and yet it speaks of disharmony. United we stand divided we fall.
There is battle going on,one I hate to see. It must happen because the signs are true. These words are only words with a message. What did you receive?
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There's no way to fake INTEGRITY. You are either are IN INTEGRITY offering a PURE positive vibration which the Law of Attraction responds to. Or you're OUT of INTEGRITY which creates a negative or mixed vibration, which the Law of Attraction cannot ignore.
Here's a real-life story which demonstrates what happens to our vibration when we are out of INTEGRITY.
I was feeling pretty upbeat after our coaching session yesterday and really excited about winning a prize pack from the radio station.
After picking up my prize, I noticed Spyware, an electronics store, and decided to go in and compare prices with an item I had just bought from Radio Shack yesterday. Spyware had the exact same item on sale for $10.00 less so I bought it with the intention of returning the first item to Radio Shack. When I compared the two products they were exactly the same, with the exact same bar codes and packaging. However, I noticed the cheaper item had one wire a couple centimeters shorter than the more expensive item.
I made a decision to return the item with the shorter wire (the one purchased at Spyware) back to Radio Shack and keep the original item. Thus saving $10.00 but keeping the better product.
After the clerk had finished all the paperwork I felt extremely guilty. But then I rationalized it was too late to do anything about it and told myself I would just have to let this guilt go. What a way to bring my high vibration to a crashing halt. I reminded myself that this is why I shouldn't do things like this in the first place because not only can I not live with the guilt but now it is a double whammy because I'm so aware of my vibration and this is bringing it way down.
Anytime we do something that is not in alignment with our core values, we feel negative emotions which hinder us from receiving the real desires of our heart.
The antidote is simple: be honest, pay all debts, return what you've borrowed, speak kindly about others and keep your word. In other words, do nothing that will hinder the flow of pure positive energy toward you. Be true to your self an you'll open the way for receiving everything that will make you happy.
This same client had such an opportunity to 'make it right' on an energetic level. Again, she wrote:
I was feeling pretty bad when I returned to my office, and then remembered I needed to go to the bank. I went up to the bank machine and there was $40.00 sitting in the slot. Someone had forgotten to take it with them after they finished their transaction. They had also forgotten to take their bank slip. I took both out of the machine and put them in my pocket while I did my own banking.
Now I was dealing with the moral dilemma of what I should do with the found money. I so badly wanted to keep the money as I am heavily in debt with all my credit cards almost maxed out. I tried rationalizing: The bank slip doesn't have the account number on it so it's not like one can trace it but it did say that the person had a balance of $195.00 which isn't very much.
I remembered how I felt when I once left $20.00 in the bank machine myself and went back for it but it was gone.
I then decided to go into the bank and leave the $40.00 with a bank teller. While I was waiting in line, another lady came into the bank and told me I left my card in the bank machine so I went back to get it. Then she came back again saying now I'd left my bank slip in the machine. This is how frazzled I was!
Anyways, I gave the money to a bank teller with my business card and I am feeling much better.
I feel like the Universe gave me an opportunity not only to redeem myself but also an opportunity to change my vibration after something I've done in the past that I feel badly about.
Indeed! This client demonstrates the wonderful way the Law of Attraction works: Her dominant intention was to offer a high vibration so that she can attract more money and enjoy her life.
The Law of Attraction arranged an opportunity (the item from Radio Shack.) Her actions in the first opportunity caused her vibration to drop, which didn't feel good. So she RESET her intention to feel good,and the Law of Attraction sent her another opportunity to take actions that feel better.
Activities - such as sports, creative projects, reading, work, TV, meditation - can be a wonderful way to relax, express yourself, or connect to yourself. Or they can be an addiction. How can you know the difference?
* Angie would surf the channels whenever she felt stressed or alone.
* Karen would lose herself in a book when things felt overwhelming.
* Keith would retreat and meditate when his wife wanted to talk.
* Patty’s work schedule left her little time at home.
* Carl spent more time in the garage fixing things than with his family.
* Patrick’s love of running was interfering with his family time.
Whether or not an activity is an addiction depends upon your INTENT.
* When the intent of an activity is to avoid the pain of aloneness and loneliness, it is an addiction.
* When the intent of an activity is to avoid the pain of rejection or the fear of domination, it is an addiction.
* When the intent of an activity is to put off doing something you don’t really want to do but need to do, it is an addiction.
Whenever an activity is used as a way to avoid something - painful feelings, difficult or boring tasks - it becomes an addiction. It’s really no different than using substances such alcohol, drugs, or food to avoid painful feelings or challenging tasks. The problem with using addictions to avoid painful feelings is that the feelings don’t actually go away. They are just numbed for the moment but are silently eroding one’s sense of self. We can get away with it only for so long before it shows up in some way - illness, divorce, depression, and so on. And avoiding tasks means that the tasks pile up, eventually causing the very stress we want to avoid. Our society is filled with ways to avoid. Yet it is avoidance that leads to the very feelings we are striving to avoid!
When the intent of an activity is to take loving care of yourself by providing yourself with fun, creativity and expression, relaxation, personal growth, spiritual growth, physical health and well-being, then it is a loving action rather than an addiction. It all depends on your INTENT.
Next time you want to participate in your favorite activity, you might want to notice your intent. Do you want to relax and watch TV or are you avoiding some difficult feeling or task? Do you find yourself scheduling more work than you can really handle to avoid dealing with aloneness, loneliness, or conflict with a mate, or are you really loving your work and feeling fulfilled by it? Are you exercising to support your health or to avoid feelings?
Once you become aware of using an activity to avoid, here’s what you can do about it:
1. Welcome the feeling you are trying so hard to avoid. Pay attention to the feeling - fear, loneliness, aloneness, agitation, boredom, anxiety.
2. Make a decision to learn what YOU might be doing to cause this feeling rather than continuing to avoid it.
3. Explore what you might be doing to cause this feeling. How are you not taking care of yourself that is causing your painful feeling? Are you procrastinating, judging yourself, or not standing up for yourself in conflict? How are you avoiding responsibility for your own well-being? Are you allowing yourself to be a victim, waiting for someone else to make you feel better?
4. Once you understand what you are doing to cause your distress, then you need to ask “What would be the loving action for myself?” You are asking this question of your highest self, or of your spiritual guidance if you are connected with a source of guidance. If you open to learning about what is loving, ideas will pop into your mind.
5. Now you need to take the loving action on your own behalf - complete a task, stand up for yourself and speak your truth with someone, and so on.
6. Re-evaluate how you are feeling. Are you feeling more peaceful and more powerful? You will feel more peaceful if you have taken the loving action. If you are not feeling better, don’t just turn back to your addictions. Look for another loving action until you find what really makes you feel safe on a deep level, not just the temporary pacification of an addiction.
You will find your addictions fading away as you learn to take loving care of yourself.
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